The second agreement offers readers a way to deal with hurtful treatments by other people they can experience in life. He favors the importance of having a high self-esteem and not having to rely on the opinions of others to be satisfied and satisfied with their self-image. This agreement also allows readers to understand the idea that each individual has a unique worldview that changes their own perceptions and that a person`s actions and beliefs are a projection of their own personal reality.  Ruiz believes that anger, jealousy, envy, and even sadness can diminish or dissipate as soon as a person stops taking things personally.  The third agreement describes how assumptions are made, how it causes suffering, and why individuals should not participate. Assuming what others think, it can cause stressful and interpersonal conflicts, because the person believes that their acceptance is a representation of the truth.  Ruiz believes that one solution to overcome the act of acceptance is to ask questions and ensure that communication between those involved is clear.  Individuals can avoid misunderstandings, sadness and drama by not making assumptions.  The Four Agreements©, was released in 1997 and has sold about 9 million times. It`s been on the New York Times bestseller list for nearly a decade.
Everything we do is based on agreements we have made – agreements with ourselves, with other people, with God, with life. But the most important agreements are those that we encounter ourselves. In the first part of this 2-part video, we learn more about the “domestication” of man and how all the rules and values of our family and society are imposed on us by a system of punishment and reward. As little children, it is our true nature to love and be happy, to explore and enjoy life; We are absolutely authentic. But then we learn to be what others think we should be, and because it`s not normal for us to be what we are, we start pretending to be what we aren`t. When we are teenagers, we have learned to judge ourselves, to punish ourselves and to reward ourselves according to agreements we have never chosen. The four agreements help us break the self-limiting agreements and replace them with agreements that bring us freedom, happiness and love.. . .